Speaking A New Language
Riding a horse one day, I realized I was talking to him saying things like "stop" "come on, let's go" "get the lead out"...all the while pushing or pulling. We were getting nowhere fast..I was frustrated.
Jump to the next scene where I'm having a conversation with the DH asking him to do something. He's looking back at me with this blank stare in which I can see that nothing is sinking in.
It dawned on me that I wasn't speaking the right language. I needed to learn a new one. With animals, people call them whisperers. I could watch the horse gracefully moving in the pasture, stop on a dime..all the things I wanted. So I needed to learn to speak to him in his language..just as the whisperers do with dogs and other animals.
The same thing with the DH. My language was being blocked. BTW, this rarely happens but in this instance I was really speaking Chinese and he was hearing French! The language communication barrier was down. How many times have I gone someplace, disgruntled by a purchase or product and started to complain only to be greeted with the phrase "talk to the hand"? I've been teaching myself new languages almost everyday. No Rosetta Stone required for these languages. I think they call it common sense language. Are you learning a new language?